The most wonderful thing in the whole world is to have kids. Life is meaningless and dull without kids. Children add fun, laughter and meaning to your life. They are the bonds that tighten the relationship between married couples. Daughters are the cute and amazing princesses of your home and they make your life worth living. Daughters who are a blessing can also become a nightmare. When they are newborn you have to go sleepless for many nights. When they are toddlers you need a lot of energy to run behind them. When they are teens………..! They drive you nuts.
Do you have a teen daughter at home? Then I am sure you are facing the problem of coping up with your teen daughters. I can hear you sighing and nodding with consent. Don’t worry. You are not alone. I have heard many moms and dads complaining that ‘Dealing with my teen daughter’s hormones is the biggest problem in my life’. If you are a woman with hormonal problems due to menopause and if you have a teen daughter who is also fighting her hormonal problems, then your problem is doubled. I am sure your husband must be having a tough time dealing with you both.
All daughters are angels till they enter their teens. You may not be able to understand how your little angel transformed into a beast. Please don’t blame yourself or your daughter. The reason for her change may be due to the excessive secretion of hormones. Here are some tips to handle your teen daughter’s hormones effectively.
- Keep yourself calm during your daughter’s outbursts. If you shout back, there will be an ugly war. Keep cool. Take a deep breath and step away for a while. If she gets irritated with your silence, tell her that you are not going to talk to her until she stops yelling. When she calms down, tell her that you are willing to help her with all her problems. Tell her softly how you expect her to talk with you.
- Show her that she is loved. The teens go into a depression if they feel they are not loved. Make sure that she realizes that you love and care for her.
- Do you remember your teen years? Do you remember the difficulties you experienced before entering the adulthood? Try to understand that she is going through the same phase. She may be more aggressive than you were. It is not fair to compare your daughter with you. Nothing in the world is same as it was a quarter almost 20 years ago. Your daughter is living in a different world that has changed a lot today.
- Treat her like a friend and like an adult. She is no longer the little child who was dependent on you for each and everything.
- Improve your communication with your daughter. She must feel free to talk all her problems to you. Family outings will help in lessening the gap between you and your daughter.
Dealing with hormones of a teen daughter is not the problem of a mom alone. If the mother is single, she may not have an option. She may be forced to deal with the tantrums and drama of teen daughters. If not, it is the duty of the dads too to build a trust with their teenage daughter. In most of the families, daughters are closer to their dads than moms. Girls tend to shout at their moms more than their dads. Fathers must not take sides when there is a small conflict or difference of opinion between mother and daughter. Taking sides will worsen the situation.
Both parents should not be pushy. Don’t interfere in everything she does. If you start disapproving things like her hobbies, her interest for music and sports she may become aggressive. Just make sure that you know her friends and her whereabouts. Wrong friendship could ruin her life.
Teens hate being advised by their parents. It is your duty to guide her in the right path. Just don’t make it sound like an advice. Make it sound like a suggestion by a friend. You should make sure that she does not go for smoking or illicit drugs. Teach her to refuse these things when she is forced by her friends.
Teenage is the important stage in life to set goals. Help her in setting goals and achieving them. If parents cannot understand and tolerate their daughter, who else can? Be loving, caring and understanding to help her come out of her hormonal problems.